When plans change part three. 

Jim and becca lyin had been dating for a while. They had become engaged. They both grew up attending fundimental baptist churches. They were both committed to Baptist distinctive and doctrine.  

That had all changed when he and her attended a wedding at a non fundimental church. He had got in trouble for it. It caused him to rethink his direction in life. 

He decided to abandon independent fundimental Baptist.  He wanted to take a break from the engagement. But she said no. She wanted to stay with him no matter what. 

They went to the church hia cousin and his wife attended. He was still not sure. That night they came back.

The car pulled in. “Your still nervous? “She commented.  “Yea i am a little. I used to rail against all of this. Now i am considering joing it. Whats happening to me?” he asked. “It will be ok. Your not compromising who you are.your principles are stronger then ever. Your only altering your views on style. ” she told him. “I know your right. It is still hard. ” he admitted. 

“We will get though this together my love. “She said. They exited the car. They took eachothers hand and walked inside hand in hand. She aleays loved his touch. She found she needed it. 

They went inside. The greeter remembered them. “Hi jim and becca. Right? ” grrig said. “Yes that is correct.  Your grieg?” he asked.  The greater said that he was correct. 

“I am glad you came back. I hope you will be hear on a regular bases.” greg said. “So far we like it. ” becca chimed in. He just smilled. 

They went to the maine auditorium. He saw his cousign and his wife. “You came back!” bryan said. ” i am a little surprised myself! ” jim said. 

“We are vary glad that you are hear. ” his wife jess said. “We are glad to be hear. We enjoyed this morning.  ” becca said. 

“Hey becca. On monday night we have a ladies bible study. We meet at 6:00 at night.  There are alot of younger ladies.  It is really good. Can you come?” jess asked. “I would love to. ” becca said.

Jim eas surprised that becca was eiger to jump into all of this. She seemed to be all this. She was more enthusiastic then he was. 

She really liked the idra of going to the ladies bible study. She was eiger to get to know jess better. She wanted to get to know other ladies in the church especialy ones her age ot close to it. 

“So are you seriously thinking aboit coming hear full time?” bryan asked.  “Yes we definitely are. ” jim said. Bryan smilled.” excellent. The pastor likes to take younger man under his wing. I assume you still want to go into ministry.  He will plug you in. Your will be extremely busiy but it is worth it. ” Bryan said. 

“Yes i do want to go into ministry. “Jim said. Becca was so glad to hear him say that. So was bryan. Bryan really liked his cousin. He wanted to see him grow and excell in the lord.

“This church is due for another wedding!, jess commented. ” i am certently am ready for a wedding. “Becca chimed in. 

“I would love to help you plan it. “Jess said.  “Sounds great. ” becca said. Becca tried to mention the wedding as much as posible. She wanted jim to know that she verry much wanted to do it. She wanted to marry him. She wanted him to be sure of that. 

“You two make a realy cute couple! ” jess remarked.  Becca squeezed his hand and smilled. “We think so too!” she said.

The pastor and his wife came over to becca and jim. “Hi. Welcome back! I am so glad that you are hear. We were hoping that you would come back. ” the pastor said. 

“It is good to be hear. ” Becca said.  “We hope that you will feel at home hear. We realy like this church and hope you will as well. ” the pastor’s wife told them. 

Becca notticed that jim had gotten prety quiet.  She wished that she could read his mind.  She wished she knew what was he thinking. She suspected that he was having doubts. He was having what some might describe as buyers remorse. She did not quite understand what he was going though. She was trying to. 

She felt at home hear. There was something that she realy liked about this church. She felt that this church could be a good thing for both of them. She hoped that he would embrace it. 

“So far so good! “Becca lyinn said. Jim just smiled. Everyone was really friendly.  Several had come up and talked to them. She suapected that these would one day become good friends. 

After a while the church service started. The pastor made anoncements. Then the worship team got up. She could tell that he was uncomfoetible during this. He did sing along. She sang along more enthusiastically.  

Her family were very tradional . they were old . her mom was a piano teacher. Her family were hyims only. She had never listened to ccm or klove or anything like that. She had never really wanted to.

The truth is that her parent’s convictions on music had never really been hers. She did not feel as strongly on this as even she would have thought.  She was ok with the music hear. She even kind of liked it. She felt that ccm was wrong but could never articulate why. 

She threw herself into it. She noticed that jim did not. She hoped that jim was not offended by her response.  She wanted to give this a chance. She hoped that jim understood that. If jim decided to go back to the old church,  she would suport that. She wanted him to know that as well. 

She suspected that he would not be happy at the old church.  It would be drudgery.  He would trudge along because that was what he was supposed to do. It would not really be him. Those at that church would no longer trust him. He probably could not teach the sunday school class he had before. He could not mostlikly preach there.  He might not be able to preach at like minded churches or retreets as he had. He would be a periah. 

Could he be welcomed hear? He was stil king James exclusive. That would not change.  Both he and Becca lyinn were strong suporters of the king James and textus receptis. They were both suportive of more conservitive dress. He could be ok with dressing down a little bit. Both believed that women should wear dreses or skirts. He could be ok with not wearing suits to services. 

The messege was really good. Both jim and becca liked the mesege. The pastor did preach from the king james. He preached in a very simple and consice mannor. 

He preached on godliness. He preached on being godly in an ungodly world. He preached on sticking to the word of God. He challenged those present to cling to the word of God. To read it and live it.both thought that it was really good. 

After the service, the pastor and his wife talked to them. “So did jess tell you about the bible study tomorrow night? ” jill ,the pastor’s wife asked. “She did. I am going to try to make it.” jess told her. 

Jill smiled. “Great! I was hoping that you would.  We have a realy good group.  It is a lot of fun. We have a good study. ” jill said. “We all really like it. ” jess said. 

Becca felt like she was already part of the church. She felt like this was right.she felt like this waa where she should be. She felt that this would be a real beginning. She was excited for it.excited for what God was doing and would do. 

After a while they walked out. They walked hand in hand. “So hunnie are you really considering going to the bible study?” he asked.

She was stuned by his question. ” yea. I think it is a good idea. It will give me a chance to get to know the ladies in the church. It will let me get a feel for the church as well. ” he said. 

“Your sure it is not too soon to realy dive in?” he asked.  “It is not commiting to anything. I like what i see so far. I will be keep my objectivity. I want to get to know this church more and those in it. ” she told him.

” ok. ” he said. “Your ok with me going aren’t you?” she asked. “Of course i am. I was just curias about your thoughts on it. “He said.

She smilled. ” ok. ” she said. They went to her apartment.  They sat on the steps. They were never inside each other’s home. They did hang out outside. 

“I had a good day with you today. I see this as a kind of adventure. I see this as you and i ploting our course in the lord. We are together making our faith our own. We are shaping how our family will work. Not forsaking the example of our parents and  grand parents but building on it. “Becca told him.

“I had not thought of it that way. I like that.  ” he said. “I do too. ” she said.  “I thought today went well. I want to be cautious but i like it so far. ” he said.

“I do too.  I want to give this church a chance.  I think it could be really good. I really do. ” she told him. He got a little more relaxed. 

After a while he walked her to her car. She gave him a great big hug. “I love you so much jim. I am so proud to be your fiancée. I cant wait to be your wife. ” she told him.

“I love you so much bec! “He told her. She smiled. She huged him tighter. She went to her car and got in. The car drove off. He watched her go.

He went inside. He checked his facebook. He got several meseges from people at gospel baptist church.they told him that they missed them at church. Some told him they hoped that they would come back. 

He did not reply. He just read them over. He closed face book. He was woried about all this. He knew that it was just his nerves. He tried to stay calm and colected.

End of part three.

Next up

Becca lynn goes to a ladies bible study at the new church and has a really good  time. 

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Holding hands part 17 

Neither derek nor lexi knew one day would change there lives foever. That saterday did change both of there lives. Neither lexi nor derek knew it was comming. 

Darek had a hard time accepting it. It did not make sense to him. He rebuffed it for a long time. After a while he finaly did come to embrace the idea of those two. 

Lexi was not expecting that saterday to be any different then the usual Saturday.  That day had been prety mundane.  She did not expect any thing too earth shattering.  Of course,she was wrong.  

She embraced the whole thing from the very beginning.  She had little doubts. She decided that he was the one she was supposed to marry. Then she worked on figering out why.  It had become prety clear. 

Darek discovers that she was kind and sweet. She had a qiet and gentle sprit. She was very bubbly and out going. She was reserve as well. She usualy was very talkitive. She did not wear her emotions on her sleve. She kept some things to herself. One might not always know that.  

Darek did not at first. He started to pick up on that. She kept some things to herself. He was surprised by that. She was so bubly. She apeared to be so happy. She had a private pain. A secret sadness. Something she did not talk about. He realize that it was there. 

Her mom had died a few years ago. Her father had remarried.  While she loved her step mom, she had not quite come to terms with her real mom’s death. She had no way to deal with it. Her farther had seemed to totally moved on. Even her siblings apeared to be over it. She had not. She did not understand how they did it. They could not understand why she could not. 

Her moms bithday neared. It got harder and harder for her to deal with it. In recent years it became easier for her to deal with it. This year was harder. She had no idea why. 

One night they had a picnic in a park. “Lets go down the slide!”she sugested.”you do know your im college.  Your a young adult.”he said.”i can still have fun. ” she said. He chuckled. “Ok!” he said. “Join me!” she sugested. “Oh i dont know!” he said.

“Why do i get the feeling you were born forty?” she asked. “I Washington their seccond most respinsible one. Next to rob. He taught me everything he knew! ” she said. “You should have folowed tom’s example.” she said.he laughed. 

She went up on the swing. “I cant beleve im doing this. ” he said. He folowered her. “Deep down! Your are fun loving!” she said. “I am thinking deep down. “He said. He folowed her down the slide. 

“You have to admit that was fun! ” she said. “Mayby a little bit!” he answered. She laughed. “Well that is a start i supose!” she remarked.they went down a few more times. 

She smiled. “What?” he asked. “You are hilarious.  I really dont think your as serious as you make people think.  ” she said. “I am prety serious!” he said. 

After a while she walked hand in hand with him to his car.they got in and drove off. He drove her home. She suddenly gott really sad. She was qiet on the ride home. 

He hugged her. She seemed a bit off. Distracted. “Good night!” she said.”i love you lex!” he said. She said “i love you!” she said.  She usualy lingered but bot today. The goodbye was usually prolonged. There was nore higging and she usualy kissed him on the forehead. Not today. He found that quite odd. He watched her go inside. When she was inside, he drove home. 

He felt odd. He was woried about her. He was not sure what was going on. He drove home. He parked. He went inside. 

The next day he picked her upat home so they could go to school together.  She was distant.  She was qiet.  He went to eat dinner with her on campus. She was just as aloof..they said little to eachother. After clases he wanted to hang out with her but she said she wanted to go to her house. 

“I need some alone time ok” shr said. “You ok lex?” he asked. “Yea i just want to have some me time. If your thiking what i think your thiking. I promise its not that. I just need to short this out.” lexi said. “Ok.i am hear for you if you need me!” he said.she thanked him. 

On wendsday, they did not realy hear from eqchother but they rarely did on wendsday.  She called Derek and told him that she was not comming to the midweek serrvice. He told her that she would be missed. 

After church, he checked his computor. He looked at lexi’s facebook page.  She wrote that she was really sad. He looked over the comments.  He soon discovered that this would have been her mom’s 50th birthday. 

He clicked on the response emoticons.  He clicked on the sad face. He wotte in the comments section. ” hey lex, realy sory your having a hard time. I love you. ” 

Later on his mom wrote on her post as did two of her sisters.  He wondered why she was not turning to him. He had no clue as to why she seemed to be running away. 

The next morning he got out of bed. He got ready for school. He took a shower then got dressed. He checked his phone for messages.  He got a text from lexi. 

“Hey babe! Im caling out of school. Taking a mental health day. I will catch up with you later. ” she said. He texted her back with an ok. 

He had no idea how to help her. He wanted to help her though this. He did not know how. She seemed to be pushing her away. She pushed him away. He wanted her to be running to her embrace. 

He got coffee and went to breakfast. “You ok derrek?” his mom asked. “Yea i am fine! Lex is taking the day off from clases. I tried to call you but she did not answer. I have figured out how to relate to her. These last couple of days i just cant. ” he admitted. 

“Just let her know you care about her. Let her know your available. “His mom sugested. 

Before he went to school,he called her. “Hi you have reached lexi, i am not able to take your call right now. Please leave number and mesege and i will get back to you. ” she said.

“Hi hunie its me. I just want you to know i am hear for you. Call me when you can. ” he said. 

He went to school that day with a heavy heart. He knew she probably just needed her space.  It was still hard. He decided to let her have that space. He hated seing her like this.he missed her.  He wanted to help her. He felt powerless. He hated that. 

She heared his mesege as it was comming in. She just could not bring herself to answer it. She just sat on the couch.  She stared into outer space. 

After a few minutes she felt a little better.  She sat there crying. She reganed her composure. She needed someone to talk to. She knew that he was in clases. She did not want to brother him. She did want to talk to someone. She decided to call anna,his mother.

“Hi lexi. ” anna said. “Hi can i come over? I need someone to talk to. ” she said. “Of course hunnie. Come on over.  ” anna told her.

After a short time, the car puled in to the drive way.  She walked inside. Anna gave her a great big hug. “Would you like some cofee?” Anna asked. “I would thank you!” she said.

Anna pored the coffee into a cup. She handed it to lexi. She thanked her. They sat down. “Look i want you to know that i am hear for you. If you ever need to talk,  come over. You are going to be my daughter in law ” she said.

She smilled. “Thank you. “Lexi said. “I understand that today would have been your mom’s birthday today?” Anna asked. “Yes . its weird the last few years have been a lot easier. Not this year. I have just felt sad. Blah. ” she said.

“You two were close?”anna asked. “We were.  I was her oldest daughter. We have always been close. ” she said. 

“I am close with my mom. I am the oldest daughter. I was sux when my sister was born. We grew prety close. I was my mom’s little helper before and after my sister was born and a year later my brother came along. “Anna said 

“I was four when they had my brother. I was my moms helper. My mom and i talked about everything.  ” she said. “Its is the same between me and my mom. I remember when i told her about bryan. I mentioned him in passing. I met him as part of a study group at college.  I made a pasing refrence to him. Mom asked me,”whose bryan?” i saud just a pastoral student in my study group. She smiled and said ok. She later told me she knew the first time i mentioned him.” she said.

“Its been five years sense she died. Why is it so hard this year? ” lexi asked. “Well, your a jr in college.  Your getting closer to graduating. You have met who your prety sure is going to be your husbend. Your future us shaping up. Your weding is nearing. You probably thought that your mom would be a part of that. I know i did. Every girl dreams about her wedding. Im sure your mom figured prominently into that. Those dreamsbare vivid. Its natural. My mom was the first person i tolf when bryan asked me to be his girlfriend.  ” she said.

“The whole family has moved on.  My brothers and sisters bearly seam to notice.  My youngest sister who is 7 calls my step mom mom. My dad has a child with my step mom with another on the way. ” she said. 

“That makes it hard. Not everyone deal with things the same way. Its ok to have to stop and reflect. ” she said 

“A few days ago, derrek and i were having fun at the park. I just starting feeling blah. I have kinda shut down.  I think dere was woried i was losing interest in him. I just did not want to do anything. “She told anna.

“He understands. He realy cares about you. ” anna said. ” i know he does.  He is a really sweet guy. I did not meen to ignore them. I do not know how to deal with all this. I cant beleve everyone else has moved on. ” she said. 

“Everyone mourns in there own way. They may not be as ok as they seam. Derek is hear for you.i know you could no better person on your side.” she said. “I know that.” she answered.

“He is very reserve. He really likes you. I can tell.”anna said. “I know that.” she said. “It was not always easy confiding in someone.  It was hard for me to trust bryan at first. Not because he was not trustworthy,  i felt insecure.  I soon learned i could.in the course of mt maried lifei have told him things i would never tell anyone else. He always was. Understanding. I knew derrek is the same way.    “Anna said. 

“Right now i just feel blah. I know mom is with the lord. She is dar happier in his presence. ” she said.”this will pass. Just let it. Wait. Dont force it to pass. It will in time. ” she told her. 

Derrek headed hime form class. He was sad. He tried to call lexi but it went to viice mail. He drove by her place but she was gone. He drove home.

He saw her car in the driveway. He went inside. “Hi mom! Is lex hear?” he asked. “She is the living room. Gracie fell alseep on her. Go qieltly. I invited her to supper. ” she said.

He went to the living room. He sat down next to her. He put his arm around her. “You do know your going to be hear for the next six hours.  My siblings and i refer to this as the Gracie trap! ” he said. 

“I have heard. You know she will still be young when our kids are born. She and your brother tim will probibly be playmates with our kids. ” she told him. He smiled.

“I cant wait to be a dad. ” he told her. “You will be a good one. I want a big family. Mayby not duggrt sizr but a good size. ” she said. “Who?” he said. “Never mind! ” she answered.

“I would like a big family. If mom and dad gave more we might have kids who are older then there aunt and uncles. I was older then some of my uncles and aunt. ” he said. “Me too. ” she said. 

“Gracie seams to like you. I know you will be a great mommy. ” he said.”i like her. Thanks.  I am sorry i have been the way i have the last few days. ” she said. 

“You needed time to work all this out. I understand. ” he told her. ” your mom has been great today. ” she said. “She is the best. Lex you dont have to face this things alone. ” he said. “I wont. Thank you” she said.

After dinner they hung out side. She held on to her. After a while she went home. “Thank you for everything der. I love you.” she said. “I love you lexi.” he said.

End of part 17

Next up

Derrek  and lexi go to a novrmber banquit at his school. 

Only a matter of time part 13

Becky was a penticoastal college student. She had grown up in the penticoastal  movement. Her farther was a penticoastal minister. She grew up hevily involved in her church. She was in the praise and worship team. She was involved in outreach and evengilistic endeavors.  

She was commited to penticostal teaching and pratice. She never wavered. 

She knew other denominations exiated of course.  She knew that there were sagments of non Catholic Christianity that did not beleve in certain gifts of the holy sprit were viable for today. That was the extent of it. 

She did not understand how anyone could not beleve that gifts of the holy sprit were not viable today. She was a major proponent of prophecy,  tounges and heeling. She oftened shared penticostal articles or posts. She was commited to it. 

She had dated a bit but nothing too serious. She had not met anyone she really considered marying. She tried to force the issue. She tried to settle. She could not do it.

Then her world was shaken up. The saterday she met Kevin apeared to be just an ordinary day. That turned out not to be true.  

The first meeting went badly. She was a bit rude to him. She had not realize it until after. 

At first kevin was just there.  She kept runnning into him. He kept showing up. He kept asserting himself into her life. 

He was a fine person. She did not really know him. Slowly she started to trust him. She slowly let him become part of her life. She eventually considered her a friend. Not anything more

 When he asked her out,she was shocked. She tried to dismiss the notion that she liked her more then just a friend. She really did not want to think about that. 

When he asked her out, she recoiled. That did not last long.  She did feel drawn to him. After rebufing him,she Finally agreed to date him. 

“So tomorow. I am going to do some street evengelism. We are going to hand out a packet with john and rommans. We are going to try to talk to people.  ” he said. 

“Can i join you? I promise i wont spout penticostal belief.  I will be a silent partner. ” becky told him. He chuckled. “Yea that’s fine. Of course. “He said. 

On saterday the group split up. She and kev were a group.  They were walking up a street. A young man came up to him. “Hey. Rj! How are you?”kev asked. “You remembered me?” he asked. “Of course.”kev said.

“Look, kev i cant stop thinking about what you said. Can i really be saved from my sins?” he asked. “Yes you can. Believe on the lord jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved. “He told him. 

He talked to rj quite a bit. He opened up several passages to him. Kevin talked to him exstensivly. Kevin was not a big fan of the siners prayer..after a while he did pray with him. 

R.j would be there for church the next day continued to attend ever sense. R.j would later become a deacon. He was a misionary to his street. He became a key member of the young church. He and kevin would develop a close friendship. 

After talking to r.j. They continued to walk though the street, becky talked to some teen girls. Becky handed out the John Romans.  They asked a lot of questions.  They took the pamphlets.  After the two prayed together for them. 

They handed some out in people’s homes.  They talked to some teens playing basketball. 

After a while a middle aged women went over to them. ” sir? What are you doing hear?” she asked. “I am from gospel baptist church. We are passing out copies of john and Romans.  ” he said. 

“I dont like you herasing people.” the lady said. “It it not our intention to herass anyone. If someone tell ustjey are bot interested. We back off. ” he assured her. 

“I dont think you should be hear. If you do not leave i am going to call the cops. ” the lady said. “We are not hear to cause trouble. ” becky said. 

“I will be watching you” she said..she moved on. They never saw the police. Apeatently she never did call the police.they left the street. 

Latet they met up at a meeting point. In addition to rj, there were two other decisons made for christ.these were fruit that remained. Later on the two girls started attending and later for saved and grew in the lord. 

Becky and kevin went out for supper.”i am glad i got to serve the lord with you. ” she said.”i did too.we make a good team. Our sprituel gifts seam to compliment each other. ” he told her. “I noticed that too. ” she said.

“I love doing ministry with you.” he told her. “I do too.    I love seing your different sides. Your playfull side. Your work side. Your serious sides. I am stil working on getting used to your jokes!” he said. 

“You dont like my humor?”he asked. “Your jokes are really really corney!”she said. “Oh! ” he said. “I like you alot just not your jokes. “She said. “Ok. I am glad you like everything else about me. ” he said. She smiled.”i really do. ” she said. “So should i stop telling those jokes?”he asked. “Yes you should. ” she said. 

“Whats wrong with my jokes? ” he asked.  “They are non sensical. They make no sence at all. ” she told him. “Thats why they are funny. “He said “oh!” she said. 

They went to her church. She watched him during the prase time. He was sining along and dancing a bit. It was more like swaying. The early  days he stayed still.  She took his arms and raised them. He gave her a dirty look. She smiled.  

After the service they walked to the car. ” so. Were you singing along to the songs during worship time?” sge asked. “A little bit. I know the words.” he said. “Were you swaying a bit? ” she asked. ” ok a little. ” he said. She laughed.  “I am waiting for you to have k love in your car.” she said.  “I dont know about that. “He said. 

” i love you so much.” she blutted. He smiled. “Where did that come from?” he asked. “I love spending time with you. I have a confession.  Even when i agreed to date you, i stil had doubts.i was not sure we could make a go of it. As i have interacted with you in several different circumstances.  Things are changing. I am growing close to you. I feel such a bond with you.” she said.

”  i know. I feel it too. I am glad you see it. I knew you were stil sceptical. I really hoped you would see what i saw. ” he said.

“It was the concert that turned mw around.  I realize your not quite who i though you were.  Your not rigid. Your not strict or harsh.  ” she said. 

He drove her to her house.  They said there goodnights. She wrote in her diary that she was ready to embrace him. She knew that he was part of Gods plan for her life. 

She went to his church Sunday night. He preached that day . he preached on the basics of the gospel.  He preached that we needed a constent reminder of who of who we were before we were saved and who we are now and what we will be in the future. He tried to keep it simple.

She loved to hear him preach. He constantly surprised her. He was a godly man. He had godly wisdom. He was able to preceve what to do when.

After the service they sat on the steps. “You ok bec? You seem sad tonight?”he asked. “Well i realize you only have two weeks  left before you go to your home. Soon clases will begin. Then winter.  We wont see as much of eachother. We will be buisey with home work,exams,  work,  ministry etc. I wish i had not run away like i did. When you chased me i hoped you would stop. I wanted you to go away and now you are. ” she told her.

He put his arm around her. She rested her head on his sholder. ” hey! I am not going away i just wont be as close.  I will only be forty minutes away.  Its not like i am going to eroupe or anything.  ” he told her.

“I know but with winters being how they are. I promised my parents i would go home for christmast. It could be a ling school year. ” she told her. 

“It wont be easy but we will figure it out. It wont be foever. ” he assured her. “I know that.  Look im sorry that i made you to chase me. ” she said. “It was worth it. ” he told her . 

He knew some how that it would work out. He hugged her. “Have a good night bec!” he said. “You too kev!” she said.  

End of part 13

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Keven and his teams time is almost up. He gets ready to go back home.  

Only a matter of time part 12

Kevin Smith thought his life was complete. He was at bible colege. He was traning to serve the lord.he did not feel incomplete. There was no feeling of a void. He was happy where he was. He was single but he was not sad or fretting about it. 

Then he met becky. He was on a sumer missons trip.he happened to meet becky while visiting a penticostal mega church. It was a kind of reconnaissance misson. 

They kept bumping into eachother. It was highly unusual for him to even consider dating her but his feelings for her only got stronger.   

She at first resisted him. She did not want to date him. He backed off . She finaly changed her mind. She decided to give him a chance.  

They started hanging out more. She went to his church and she went to hers. She liked him but had doubt’s rather or not they could make it work.

The time came near for a newsboys concert.she had bought tickets a while ago. At the time she intended to go with jake. She stil wanted to go. She had no idea if kecin would go with her. It was worth a shot. 

“Hey! Kev. I have tickets for a christian rock group on saterday. Want to go?” she asked. “Yea i will go. ” he said. “I will give you ear plugs if you want. This is kibd of everything you are against !”she told him. 

“I promise i will be on my best behavior.  ” he said. “You dont have to go if you really dont want to!”shr said. 

“Bec! Whats going on? Why are you trying to give me an out.  I honestly dont want one. ” he told her.

“Look i am not i.f.b. i am not like you.i am afraid that you have your world,i have mine. Never the twain shal me. You want me to excist in yoir world.  You say you dont want me to become you. What happened when you come home and i am dancing to some klove song on the radio?”she asked.

“Hug kiss! Make fun of you incessantly.  I dont know.”he said. ” i cant be the person you want me to be. ” she asked.

“Do you want me to change?”he asked.”no i am in love with you. I dont know if i would love  you if you were a penticoastal. I love you qirks and all. You have mnny! I dont know that its enough!” she said. 

“Your in love with me? “He asked. “Yes i am but dont let it go to your head. ” she said. 

“Give me a chance. I am wiling to go to the concert. I will give it a chance.  I promise! ” he said. ” ok. ” she said. 

He was woried that he was losing her. He was woried that she was not really in this. He was not looking for a wife When he came hear. That was not anywhere on the radar. Now he could not imagine his life without her.  He feared that that he might have to. 

“Sarah i don’t get this. I was not looking for a wife. Yet hear’s becky. I cant beleve this is not from the lord. I understand her concerns. I realy do. I know we have different view ponts . i know we believe strongly in them. Can we make this work?” he asked.

“Earn her trust. Work with her. Sit down with her. Work with her. Let her know that you and her are partners. Let her know that you are on the same team. ” sarah said. 

“I wish i could just convince het that i am not about trying to change her. Thats why not i want. ” he said. 

“Isn’t it? You beleve that independent fundamental baptists is correct?  You are a baptist by conviction?” sarah asked. “Yes. I am fully convinced that baptist view is based on the bible. ” he said.

“Would you perfer that becky become a fundimental baptist?” she asked. “I wish everyone would. I am a happy Baptist. The stereotype is that we are angery sour puss. I am happy. I believe it is best. I gues i would love for her to become like me. I love her. I love her personality. I love that she pushes every buton i have. I understand who she is. ” he said. 

“You want to mary her?” she asked.  “Yes i do. ” he said..”your life is intertwined with i.f.b. you attend a fundimental baptist church. You attend a fundimental Baptist college. You are on a missons trip helping to build up an i.f.b church plant. Your whole life is centered around i.f.b. She wants to know where she fits in. Her world is centured in penticostalism. She beleves it is correct. We might not be be able to see that but she does. You do want to turn her into you. Dont you? ” she said.

“Mayby a little. How can i not?” he asked. “You two are seaking to make your two culture one. Out of two one. You will create a new culture. You want her to give up hers and embrace yours. You do kind off.  Are you wiling to murge your world with hers? Do you want to obsorb her into yours. You know if you do seak a hostile takeover, you will lose her” sarah said. 

“I am deeling with several isues. I am fully committed to fundimental Baptist theology. I am madly in love with becky. I dont know if i can reconcile those two things. ” he said. 

“You need to talk to her. Tell her this. Work with her. ” she said.  “I know your right. I dont want to lose her. I dont know to not. “He said. “Tell her that! You two have to work though this together. “Sarah told her.

On Saturday he arived at her place. She came out. She wore a pink dress and sandles. He wore a blue polo shirt and jeens. He hugged her. “Ready ?” she asked. “Im ready. ” he said.

They met up with friends of hers. “So this is your new boyfriend?” a friend said. “This is. This is kevin. ” she said. “You realize she is realy silly?” another friend asked.  “I am aware. ” he said. They laughed. 

When the concert began, she did what she always does. She danced and raised her hands and sang. She kept getting carried away. She ran saw him and stoped. He laughed. 

After a while she said to her,”you are so cute? I am not offended.im your guest. I am in your turf. Do what you ordinarily do. ” he told her. “You sure?”she asked. “Yes i do. I dont hold back at my church functions. ” he said. 

“Your making me self concscious!” she said. “Do you want me to look the other way?” he asked. “No! Ok look i am afraid of you. I dont want to offend you. ” she said. “Look i came hear willingly.  If im offended its my own fault.  Relax. “He said. 

He recognized some of the songs. It was a little loud . it was not too bad. He liked to observe her in her native environment.  He wanted to see her as she is. He routinely roled his eyes and she laughed. He liked to tease her and she usualy teased her back.  

At one point she raised his arms. He just laughed. He shock his head. They bith laughed. 

After the concert they went to her car.”so will you ever do this again?”she asked. “Yes i will. ” he said.”even after we are maried?”she asked. “Yes even after we are maried. ” he said.

“Are we sick of me yet?”she asked.he laughed. “No im not. “He said. “You sure?”she asked. “Im sure. “He said.

At the cofee shop. “Look i have been thinking about what you said. I dont think we can make this work. I know he can. Not by might not by power but ny my sprit. I would perfer you adopt i.f.b but i also know that mandated you beleve something does not work. We have to find a way to coexist without compormise. One of us givng in for the sake of unity wont work..i ask you what are deal breakers for you?”he asked.

“Well. Absolute band on speaking in tounges. Tounges at your church i got it. Private tounges. None. I just canot agree with that.  “She said.

“I assumed that would how it would go! “He said. “I will try not to embarrass you too much. ” she said.

“Other deal breakers?”he asked. “Music is not a deal breaker. Hyims at church ok. I cant be as strong on contemporary christian music. Please dont totally ban it?”she asked. “I figured that that was coming. Thats fine.  ” he said. 

“So i got to ask,is marying something you want to do?”he asked. “Yes. It is. I want to mary you. Not i.f.b.i feel like marying you meens marying them. Yes i do want to marry you. “She said.

“I dont want to lose you beck. There are things i cant compromise on. At the same time i hope wanting you and wanting to be a baptist pastor are not mutualy exclusive.i dont want to mary anyone else. I am sure of that. If i was convinced that you were not his will but right now i am prety sure you are. I am afraid to lose you. Somehow we have to figure a way of murging our worlds into one new world. I have no clue how to do that. Look this could be the hardest thing we have ever done. I beleve God can be glorified though it. ” he said.

“Your afraid to lose me?”she asked. “Yes i am afraid to lose you. “He said..”no one has ever said that before.  You really are. “She said. “Yea.”he said. 

“I ment what i said. I am in love with you. I did not want to admit it. I am. I dont want to lose you either. ” she said. 

They walked to the car. They drove to her house. They got out. “I had a really good time tonight!” she said. “I did too. I am glad we got to do it.” he said. “Me too. ” she said. He hugged her.  

They both went home. She checked face book. She got taged by friends for pictures. She saw a picture of her raising her hands and he doing an eye role.  Someeone got a picture of her raising his arms. In one picture she had his arm around her. She started crying. 

She called her. “Hey hunnie!” he said. “Have you seen some of the pictures?”she asked. “Yea i am looking at them now.” he said. “Im balling my eyes out. Look kev i see our life in these pictures.  Look i do want this. I am ready to fully commit. I am going to trust the lord. I do trust you. ” she said.  “I love you bec.” he said. 

End of part 12

Next up.

As the missons trip starts to wind down, the two start to really get close. 

 

Only a matter of time part 11

Previously on a matter of time.

Keven is a young bible colege student that led a missons trip to a smal town . his team was assigned to help a new church plant get nore established.  

While there he met a young women naimed becky. Becky was a penticostal. They became friends.  He wanted to date her. She was reluctent at first but finaly agreed to date him.

What now? How would they make it work? How would they leaen to relate to eachorther? Now they had to work at making this relationship work. 

On a saterday, the church that Kevin and his team were helping had a work day. Keven asked her to come. She arived. They all went to a meeting place outside the church. The plan was to do yard work, panting and general cleaning. 

Becky voluntered to cleen windows and doors. She got windex and started cleaning the windows. She was a detail person. 

“Hi becky.”Kevin’s sister sarah said. “Hi sarah!”Becky said. “I am glad you could come today.” sarah said. “I am glad i did too. ” she said. “He really likes you!” she said. “I know he does. ” becky said.

After cleaning windows she helped rake outside. She liked talking to everyone while she worked.  She feared being out of place. She did not feel that way at all. She felt at home. 

“Hi im tifini the pastor’s wife.”she said. “Hi. Its good to finaly meet you! Kevin thinks the world of both of you. “She said. “We think the world of him. He has ment alot to this church. He is going to be missed when he and the team leaves. They have been a huge blessing and encouragement. “Tifini said.

“I can definently see that.  They are all very mature. “She said. “We are glad they came. ” tifiani said. 

At lunch. “So what was kevin like as a roomate at colege?” Becky asked. “Well i was the uperclassman. His side of the room was emaculate. He would pass a white glove test.  My side aleays passed. It was never quite to hus standards. “The pastor said.

“I used to tiddy up his side. He was not a huge fan of. ” Kevin said. ” that was a bit of an undersatement. ” the pastor said. ” has he always been a neat freak?” becky asked. “As long as i can remember he has been “His sister sarah said.  “I will keep that in mind. ” she said. Everyone laughed. 

“In all seriousness,he was a good roomate. He and i had some really conversations.  ” the pastor said. “I think we edified eacother.” kevin said. “I feel that way myself. “Kevin said.  

The afternoon they got ready to pass out copies of john and romans. Becky agred go acompony Kevin’s group. “Basially we put them out in mail boxes. We do have a contact number and ditections to the church. The focus is to give out the gospel. We want to get the gospel to everyone in the seronding area. We dont set out to talk to people. On ocasions we stop and talk. Once and a whilr we get assed what we are doing. Wr try not to be pushy. “Kevin said. 

They split into groups. Becky teemed up with sarah. They put the pamphlet into mail boxis or on porches or inside the door. 

They met back and went to the next street. They were able to hit several streets. They talked to a few people. There were no decisons for Christ for there were some that seemed verry open. Two would end up attending and would be saved later. They became an intergral part of the church.  It was a productive day. 

They returned to the pastors house and changed to get ready to go to her church.  “You ok going to my church after spending the day with a fundamental church?” she asked. “I will be ok. ” he said. She chuckled. 

Sarah wanted to come as well.  They walked to her car. They went into the building. They walked to the auditorium.  They saw a group of her friends including eric.  They sat down. 

“Hi sarah. ” eric said. “Hi eric. ” she said. They sat down. During the worship  time, she did what she always did. She raised her hands and she danced. He recognized some of the words.  He sang a bit but was mostly still. 

After they went out for cofee. Eric came too as did orther friends. After they drove back to where he was staying.  

“It was so nice to spend the day with you.  It was nice to see you doing ministry along side me. It was nice to see you in action.  I love we got to be in both worlds today. “He said. 

“I had a good day too. I enjoyed hanging out with you and doing ministry together.  I enjoyed watching you in ministry. ” she told him. 

“I enjoyed watching you pass out john Romans.  ” he said. ” i enjoyed that myself.  I enjoyed working along side you in ministry. I look froward to doing it more. ” she said. “I do too. ” he said. 

“So do you want me to become independent fundimental Baptist?  How do i fit in to all this?” she asked. “I am not trying to change you. I realy like how you are. I love your bubily outgoingness. I don’t intend for you to go all out i.f.b. i dont want you to change your views to conform to me. You have to follow what you believe based upon your study of scripture.  I want you to be captive to the word of God. I think you can fit in in my world. ” he said.

“Do i have to wear dreses all the time? Listen to only hyims and never speak in tounges?” she asked. “No. As i said i want to be subject to what you are fully convinced is Gods word. I never set out to marry a penticostal. Im crazy about you bec. ” he said. 

“I like who i am . i like where i am. I believe in penticostal theology. I believe in tounges and phrophecy. I like contenperary christian music. I dont see things like you do. I feel you want me to become you. I am not sure i can. ” she said.

 “I am really not trying to change you. I dont expect you to become me. I want you to be you. The truth is i just want to be with you. I am totaly enursed in i.f.b culture. I do fully believe that it is best. I want to start churches for the unchurched. I want to go to comunities that dont have much gospel witness. I gues i have expectations for my future wife.  I have had to modify them. I gues i have to continue to modify them. I dont want to be what is it the borg?”he asked.

 “I will be asimilated. Recistence is futile?” she asked.he chuckled. “I am new at this. I dont know what im doing. Lets talk about this. Lets work at this!” he said. ” ok! ” she said.

He hugged her. She held on to him. “Kev i’m crazy about you. “She said. “I know. ” he said. He watched her leave. 

End of part 11

Next up.

Kevin and becky go to a newsboys concert. 

Holding hands part 16

Derrek and lexi seemed like the most unusual of couples.  Derrek never expected this to happen. One single moment changed everything. 

Derek woke up the next day.  He was very happy. He showered.  He had breakfast.  He read his devotions. He saw a note. He smilled and took it out

“Good morning dere! i snunk this into your bible last night when you were not looking. i feel like you and i are starting a new chapter in our relationship. I realy care about you a great deal. I beleve that God created me for you. I beleve you were created for me. I am excited to explore that. I am excited to see how it all comes together.  Have a great day and great devotions. I will see you soon. love lex” 

He had a productive time in the word.he had a really meeningfull pray time. Then he got ready to go downstairs. 

He saw her car pull up. He went outside to meet her. She got out. “Good morning love!” he said. She smiled. “Morning!” she said he hugged her. 

“Good morning lexi. ” anna his mom said.  She said good morning. She worked the room.  She held the baby. They had become attached to her. She had become attached to them. 

After a while they left. They went into his car. “So how do you always manage to sneak notes into my bible?” he asked.  “Oh no that is a closely gaurded secret. ” she said. “Oh realy? I had no idea. ” he said.  

He started the car. He drove off. “I figured i would drop by for lunch?” he said. “Sounds good.  Its meet loaf day!” she said. “Sounds good. ” he said.  

He drove to the parking lot. “I dont think i have been surrounded by so many penticostals before. ” he said. “There are more of us then you know!” she said. He laughed. “Oh no!” he said. 

He hugged her. She kissed him on his forehead.  “I will see you at lunch. ” she said. “You got it. ” he said. He made sure she got inside. Then he drove off.

” so lexi! Was that your cessationest boyfriend? ” a friend asked. “Yes it was. ” she answered. She thought to herself her future husbend. She went to clases. 

He drove to his campus. He parked and got out of the car. He went to his clasroom. 

He really liked his clases. He learned a lot. He knew the importance of traning for ministry. He knew the importance of learning.he took his academics seriously. He knew that he had to keep his focus his focus. Keep the main thing the main thing. 

Now morning clases was over. He was ready to go see lexi. He was ready to go see lexi. He went to his car. He got a few jokes from his friends.  ” hey! Leaving pronised land for Egypt? ” one said. Another friend commented that he should be carefull not to get the penticostal bug.  He assured them that he would. 

He headed to the car. He was excited to see her. It had not been that long sense he saw her. He stil found that he missed her. He had so much he wanted to tell her. He suspected she did as well. 

He pulled in to the campus. He noticed that there were a lot of bumper stickers on car. There were contemporary christian music starions bumper sticker. There were generic and penticostal bumper sticker. All he had on his car was that he loved his beigle. 

He walked inside. He saw students geting out. “Hey there!” she said. He kissed her on her cheek. She took his hand. “The food does not contain a substence that turns people into penticostals do you?” he asked. “I am not alowed to talk about that. ” she said.

They held hands as they walked to the dining hall. This was his second time on campus. He stil felt out of place.  He got a meal ticket then got lunch. He sat down at a table with lexi and her friends. 

She Introduced him to everyone. They all seemed like nice people.  They were friendly and polite to him. 

“So your studying to be a baptist pastor? ” one student asked. ” yes i am. ” he said. “I see. I know a little bit about fundimental Baptist university.  You are known to not believe in the gifts of the holy spirit?” jake a student remarked.  

“Well. I do believe in the gifts of the holy spirit. I beleve that tounges and phophecy were gifts but they were ones of manny not the only gifts of the sprit.i beleve that there are multiple gifts of the holy sprit . all are importent. I beleve tounges and phophecy ceased as gifts upon completion of scripture.  ” he said in response. 

“That cannot be proven beyound doubt.  There is no verse that says in 345 ad tounges will cease.” jake commented. ” corinthians 13: 10 says that phophecy and tounges will cease. “He said.

” i know the view that phophecy and tounges ceased on completion of scripture. There is no evidence that the completion of canon of scripture is “the perfect. ” a student ben said. 

“Peater said that we have what we need for life and godliness. One of ny profesors like to say that the bible has the answer for every issue in life. The bible does not address every issue we faced specifically but there are principles. “He said.

“Every time spiritual gifts are referenced, tounges and phophecy make that list. There are test are phophetic utterance.  In the new testament epistles tounges and phophecy are viwed as viable gifts of the holy sprit. There is only one reference to its ceasing. It seems to be in the distent future. ” Jake said.

“It seams Baptist do not supernatural.  ” valerie said. “I disagree with that satement. We do believe in supernatural. We see miracles as things only the lord could do. I am suspect of believers performung miracles in this age. ” he said.

“We are commanded to perform mericles?” ben asked. ” yes . in acts we see miracles performed by belevers getting less and less.  ” he said.

“That is a weak argument. ” Valerie said. Mercifully it was nearing time for him to get back to his campus.  He took her hand and they walked outside. 

“Oh no. Your never setting foot on campus again are you?” she asked.”no im fine. Did you enjoy that?”he asked. “You have no idea.  So are we stil friends? ” she asked in a playful mannor. 

He laughed. “Yea we are stil friends! ” he said. “Good.  So i will see you after clases. “She said. “You got it. I have old testiment servey? You?” she asked. “Contemporary work of the holy sprit. ” she said. “Interesting.  ” he said. She chuckled.

He huuged her. ” i will miss you. ” she said.  “I will miss you lex. ” he said. They kissed on the cheek then they dispersed.  He went back to his campus.  

He picked her up later in the day. She was waiting for him.she hugged him. “I know it has not been that long but i realy did miss you. ” she said. “I missed you too.  ” he said.

She was invited to stay for dinner at his parents house. She accepted. After dinner they sat on the steps. “So tomorrow both our schedules are all over the place. We have clases and work. Wednesday is midweek service.how about i pick you up. I come see you at fbu. Assuming your ok being seen with a crazy penticostal.  ” she suggested. 

“It is your turn lex. I love the idea. ” he said. “Great!  I was hoping you would.  I hope they go easy on me. ” she said.  “No promises.  ” he said.She laughed and said ok. 

On Wednesday she pulled in to his driveway.  He got in. “Have you consudered downsizing your bumper sticker colection?” he asked. “You ashamed to be seen with me?” she asked. “You no !your car i am not so sure.  I meen ‘got holy sprit?’ ‘have you spoken in tounges today?” he asked. She chuckled. “No i have not considered scaling back on my bumper stickers. ” she said. “I figured i would try. ” he said. 

“What clases do you have today?”she asked. “History and thology of missions,and romons. You?”he asked.”harmony of the gospels and christian ethics.”she said. “Normal clases not sprituel laughter.”he said. “Hay that is a really good course.”she said. “I made that up. Please tell me that is not a real course?”he asked. 

She kept quiet.  They arived at his campus. “So i will see you at lunch? ” he asked. “You bett!”she said. “I will tell my friends to go easy on you but no promises.  ” he said. “Ok!” she said. 

“Have a good day at school! “She said.  “You too. See you at noon. “He said. He started to walk off. ” hey. Lex i love you!” he said. She was a bit taken aback. “I love you. ” she said. 

As she drove off she realized something changed with him. The wall he put up was starting to come down. He was letting himself fall in love with her. She liked seing him relaxed. She felt like this was starting to become real. 

She came back at noon. She had never been on he campis of an independent fundimental baptist college before. She walked around. “Can i help you?”a young lady asked. “Hi lex!” he said.

“Hi . i have not trigered any proximity alarm yet. ” she said. “Danger penticostal alert. Oh you will need this. I took care of lunch.” he said. “You did not need to do that.” she said.”i wanted to. ” he said. “Thank you”she said. ” no problem lex.” he told her. 

They went to the dining hall. They got lunch and sat down at a table. “Doctor mcgath this is lexi.”he said.”so your lexi. I had looked froward to meeting you. I am the president of the college.”he said.

“Yes. Derrek hs mentioned you . “he said. “It is good to Finaly meet you. We have an anual November retreet. I hope you can attend.” he said..”derrek has mentioned it. I am planing to. ” she said. “Excellent.  ” he said. 

“Your the reason derrek is bumping into things?”another comented. “I have been a little distracted. My grades have not been effected.  “Derrek said. “His grades are really good. He is mostly an a student but nothing below a b. ” the president said. “I am glad to hear that i am not distracting him from his accedemics.” she said. 

“No your not. He has not hurt hinself or any one else.”the president said. “I dont think that i have had my head too much in the clouds!” he remarked.” your fine.”the president said.

“I understand your penticostal?” the president said. ” yes i am. Dont wory i am not going to turn him penticostal.  “She assured him. 

“I am not too concerned. Derek is a promising student. We are excited what the lord will do on your lives. ” he said. “I am as well. ” she said.

“My wife is looking froward to meeting you.  She will be at the retreet.  Derek you and lexi will need to drop by the house sometime.” he said.”of course. ” she said. 

She was nervous about it. Derek considered doctor mcgath a close mentor. She would become very close with doctor mcgath’s wife. The two families would be very close. 

She had had a very good visit.she was glad she came. She was glad she met the school president.he walked her to her car. “I will see you tonight? “He asked. “I cant wait. I will miss you.”she said. “I will miss you. “He said. She hughed him. 

She returned after her afternoon clases. She picked him up. “Hi hunnie!”he said. ” hi derrek.” she said. He got in and he hugged her. 

She felt at home right now. She felt like she got a glimpse at what her future might look like. She was exited.  

They went to his church . the church was getting used to seing her. She was getting used to them as well. 

At prayer time,she was exited to get together to get together with his family and other ladies in the church. She went downstairs.  After the prayer time. “We are so glad that you have been comming. ” many ann said.

“Thank you. I am enjoying getting to know all of you. ” she told her. “Keep comming. ” another lady said. “I will.”she said.

Anna and lexi talked on there way back upstairs. “I am realy glad you have been coming to church as well. I have really enjoyed getting to know you. “Anna said.  “Thank you. I have enjoyed getting to know you. “She told the lady she  hoped would be her future mother in law. 

“I am glad you and derrek have worked out your akwardness. ” she said.  “I am too. Derek is a good guy. I really like him.” she said. Anna smiled”i know.” anna said. 

After church they sat on the steps. “You seam to be more comfortable now. You have changed. You have let your gaurd down. ” she said.

“I am ready to embrace this. I am ready to embrace this. ” he said. She smiled. She hugged him. 

End of part 16. 

Next up

Lexi deals with her late mom’s birrhday. 

Holding hands part 15

Previously on holding hands.

While visiting a penticoastal church bible colege student derek carlson meats lexsi graves. At the service the pastor prophesied that they should be married.  

She embraced it whole heartily.  He had doubts. After a series of indisiveness , lexsi tells him to take some time and decide if he wants this or not. He decides that he does.  

He is now ready to begin a new chapter in there relationship.  She is woried that he might still have doubts.  She is not sure if she should hold back a bit. She really does not want to. 

 The sunday after they got back together, she went to his house a litle bit before the evening service was to begin. She wore a purple top and black skirt and flip flops.  He came out to meet him. He wore a black suit and tie. 

His presence always made her smile.today was no different.  From the first time she met him,she thought that he was very handsome. 

He hugged her. He gave her a light peck on the cheak. “Hi hunie !” she said.  “Hey lex! ” he said. ” how was church thus morning?” she asked. “Doing good.  I went though exodus for survey class. Morning service dad preached on psalm 22. How was your church? ” he asked. “It was good.  The pastor preached on the holy spirit. No penticoastal jokes dere!” she said.

“I would never. Well i might but i will refrain.” he said. “It was realy good.you should listen to it. Its on the web site. ” she said. ” mayby i will. ” he said. She chuckled. 

“Ready to walk over to the church?” he asked. “Sure!” she said. He took her hand. ” so your preaching tonight?” she asked. “That is corect. I just have to decide what i am preaching on. Im kidding.  I had it all writen on Wednesday.  ” he said.

“You usualy have surmon ideas on note cards dont you. You just have to decide which one to go with dont you?” she asked. “You have caught on to my methods? Yes its true. Sometimes i merge several ides into one.  ” he said.

“I am excited to hear you preach tonight. ” she said. ” thanks.  I always look forward to being able to preach the word. ” he told her. 

No one at his church besides his immediate family knew that they had been on a break. They had noticed that they acted differently then they had before. 

Now they were back.  They enjoyed each other. It was clear and evident. There love for eachother led to love for others. Tonight they were happy. This was clear. 

Derrek preached on being restored to a relationship with God folowing a setback.  He started with the fall of Adam and eve. He discussed david’s fall and he discussed the return of the captives under Nehemiah and ezra. He discused Romans 8 and first john two. He discused the eternal esate. He discused how we should strive to be closer to the lord as we look froward to one day having christlikeness. 

Lexi was taking notes as fast as she could. There was so much hear. She was writing notes copying what he said as well as fast as she could.  She also wrote some of her thoughts. She would relisten to it off the website. 

The last two weeks had been hard on her. It took a toll on her. Tonight this surmon reminded her why she wanted to marry him. This confirned in her mind his call to ministry and her call to be his wife.  Her ministry was inter twined with his. 

She knew he worked hard on this. This was on  his heart. God has imparted on him wisdom. He was sensitive to the things of the lord. He had Godly wisdom. He felt a burden to impart this to others. 

After the service, she went to him. “I realy liked your message.  ” she told him. “Praise the lord. It is something i feel strongly about.  ” he told her. “I can tell. ” she said.

He talked to various people in the church. Then after everyone had left. He and lexi walked back to his parents house. They sat on the porch as was there custom.  

“So what is our time table? ” she asked. “Well i am a jr in college.  So are you. This is early november. We probably should complete our college traning. I am thinking the very earliest would be after graduation. The earliest is a year and seven mouths.  Somewhere after that. ” he said.

“Ok. Thats sounds reasonable.  ” she responded.  “Are you ok with that?” he asked.  “Well i want to mary you tomorrow.  I know we have to have a time of courting.  I agree. We need to get to know eachother. We need to go through marriage counseling.  Yes. That sounds reasonable.  I just wanted to find out where you are. “She said. 

“What would your time table look like?” he asked. ” realistically yes. I think sometime after graduation. I would like it be not too long after graduation.  I understand it might need to be a bit later. That is a reasonable time frame. I would not want it much beyond two years from now. That i gues is a preference.  ” she said.

“I understand that. I definently do. I agree with that.  I dont want it to go beyond two years from now. ” he said.

“So what is your time frame for ministry?” she said. “Right now i am an unoficial asistent pastor,youth pastor etc. My dad is mentoting me. I want to start churches. I am not sure if i want to pastor an excisting one first or find an unreached area and start a church. Dad started a church from scratch then did it two more times.  I hold a lisence to preach that is renewed every year. I want to become ordained.  In independent Baptist you go before an ordination council that consist of pastors curent or retired. The church votes on it baised on thr recommendation of the council. I might want to start a church on behath of gospel baptist. A kind of missionary pastor.  We could do it independently as well. ” he said.

“It sounds like you have given it a lot of thought. Would you want to get maried before becoming a pastor? ” he asked. “That is what i am thinking. If not they would be close together. I am open to pastoring an excisting churcg first but i feel called specifically to church planting. I gues my next phase of ministry is getting maried. ” he said.

“Thats sound reasonable.  ” she told her. “What are your thoughts on time table of ministry?” he asked. “I agree with you. That is a sound plan. I am glad i know your thinking on this. I am pleased that you have it well planned out. ” she said. 

“Are you ok with being a baptist pastor’s wife?” he asked. “I think i am. I think i have the gifts talents and abilities to be an efective pastor’s wife. I sing, i played several instruments including the piano. I have been told i have the gifts of encouragement.  I like to desiple. As for being a baptist pastor’s wife i am not sure about that. I have to pratice staying still during a church service. That might take some work. ” she admitted. 

He chuckled. ” i dont think i have ever seen you sit still. ” he said.”no you probably have not. I will work on that.  ” she said. “Can i watch you work on that?” he asked. 

She gently poked him. “Your one to talk dere. You dont dance or raise your hands but you nevet sit still. “She remarked.  ” true. ” he said. 

“You think i can be a good Baptist pastor’s wife?” she asked. He smiled.”absolutely.  You will be an amazing pastor’s wife.  ” he said. She smiled. “Thanks.  I will definently aspire to that with the help of the holy sprit. ” she said. “I know you will. I have full confidence in that. The lord has begun a good work in you. He will complete it on the day of christ. ” he said. 

“I know he will do the same for you. ” she said.  ” thank you lex. ” he answered. 

He walked her to her car. “Hey i have clases tomorrow morning.  You want to stop by hear tomorrow morning before clases?” he asked. “Yea. Sounds great. I will see you then.” she said. He kissed her on the cheak. They hugged. He watched her leave.

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Derek and lexi get more involved in each others world.