Kevin had gone though the gamut of emotions that Saturday. He went from highest highs abd lowest lows and everything in between.
That day,he had been ready to engage in preemptive thowing in of the towel with becky. He had mentally given up. Then Becky threw him a life line. One in retrospect changed everything. That had made him sad because that was not what he really wanted to do. Then she called him.
Both would agree that this was a huge turning point in there relationship. What could have totpedoed any chance of a future made then closer. At times there family was built on swet and tears but also on prayer,love understanding . it worked because it was built. It was carefully constructed. It was done though a thoughtful process.
He was able to get to sleep fairly easy that night. He slept soundly until norning. He felt rested and ready for another day. He was ready and waring to go.
After breakfast,he got ready for church. He saw his sister. “You seam different today. You seam hapier. Its almost like yesterday never happened. “Sarah remarked.
He smiled. “Beck called me. She apologized for last night. It was more then that. I cant explain it “he told her. “I think i understand. “She said.
“Every time i think its time to walk away,there is something that keeps bringing me back. Something that stops me. “He told his sister.
“Do you realy think she is the person God has for you?”sarah asked.”not to a certenty. I think its possible. I am assuming no until i get a firm yes.”he told her.
“I know i need to tread lightly. I know i am getting ahead of myself.i need to slow down. I do not see a go ahead to keep going. “He said.
“You have changed in the last three years. You have grown. You have matured. You have alowed the lord to work in your life. You probably have the gift of preaching. I am fairly sure you do. Now you are really preparing to go into ministery.mayby its time to find a wife,a partner. It makes sense. “She said.
“I cant believe i am even considering this but i am. “He said.”i dont feel you should walk away. Maybe you should slow down. ” she said. “I do intend to take it slow”he said.
“Just seak the lord. Be in his word. I know that you are. Keep doing it.”sarah said.
“I will “he assured her.”ok good. “Sarah answered. “I will. “He assured her. “Ok.”she said.”i realy do care about her. “He said. “I know that. “She said.
Kevin knew that they had a long way to go before they coukd date. There were a lot of unanswered questiones. A lot of things would have to be worked out.
He beleved that God had brought them together. It would work itself out. He beleved that has a plan. He was perparing them. He beleved she was part of her overall plan for there life. He did not fully understand it. He did believe it he was excited to see how it all played out.
That Monday he got a call from becky.”hi beck. “He said,”hey kev.would you be available for cofee. Just the two of us?”she asked.
“I would love to. How is tomorrow morning? “Kev asked. “Sounds great. I promise i wont ignore you this time. “She told him. He chuckled. “Ok! “He said. “I will see you there. “She said. “You bet. “He said.
Tuesday morning. He was eaiger to get up. He got up. He got right up and got ready. He showered and got ready.
He had a spring in his step that he did not have before. He could not wait to see her. He arived a bit earlier then they had planned. Within a few minutes of his puling in,her car pulled up. He smiled when he saw her. She saw him and smiled back.
She parked the car. She turned off the engine. She got out of the car.she wore a ounk t shirt black skirt and flip flops. “Hi!”he said. “Hey there.”she said.
They walked to the door of the cofee shop. He held the door for her. She thanked him. They walked inside. He incisted in paying.
After they got the donuts and cofee they went to the table and and sat down. She smiled at him.he smiled back. “Its really good to see you. “He told her. “Its good to see you kev.i need to thank you forva few things. “She told him. “Oh!”he said.
“First of all,thank you for being so gracious. Thank you forgiving me. The way you handled it was very godly. “She said. “I apreciate how you handled it. As i said i was hurt. I apreciate your heart felt apology. I was heartned that you were concernee enough to come to me. “He said.
“It was hard to admit that i was wrong. I knew i was. I knew i could not let the night go by wuthout apologizing to you. I did not want to end the night without making things right. ” she said.
“I am really glad you did. I was glad we went to bed on good terms. My heart was very heavy before you called. ” he told her.
“I figured. I really wanted to make things right with you. The other thing i wanted to thank you for.”she said. “You have me curious. “He said.
“My relationship with God has not always gone in a straght line. It has ebbed and flowed. A few years ago,i reqly got serious about my relationship with the lord. I made the decison to go to bible college. I got more serious sense then. As i got serious saten was right there.i dodged a quite alot of his missiles.he kept coming. We not as strong as we believe we are. ” she said.
“I want you to know that i have stopped hanging out with jake. You can probably tell he is a bad influence on me. It is not his fault. I chose to give in. I chose to be distracted. I chose the good over the very best. I knew i should not even consider dating jake. “She said.
“I knew he was completly wrong for me. I broke my own rules. You see a couple years ago,i wrote down a few guidelines for dating. I never realy told anyone. ” she said.
“What are your rulles?” he asked. “Well i have to date someone i could marry. Marriage has to be a distinct posibility. Not that i will mary the person but i could. It has to be reasonable for me to think that i could mary the person. I dont beleve in casual dating. That has to be parental involvement. That did not happen with me and jake. ”
“The last one is that any red flags had to be dealt with. They could not be ignored. They have to be examoned and worked though. I did not do that. Saterday. Your demeanor. Without saying a word,i saw your face. It trigered something in me. I rejected it at first. When i got home it really hit me. ” she said.
“I could not ignore it i went home and i confrounted what i knew i needed to do. I thew up my hands and ok lord i am steping out of the way. It was like a huge weight was lifted from me. I knew i had to sever ties with him. It is hard but i am glad i did. ”
“I did this bacause you challenged me to do this. I owe you a big thanks. This was a big gift. I wont forget it.” she told him.
“I had no idea. I am glad i could have this affect. I did not set out to have that influence. I am glad that it did happen. I want to be a godly influence. I prase God for that. ” he said.
“I am glad you did. I see that this is who you are. You seam to have a consistent walk with God. “She said. “I am a sinner. I wish i was.i struggle with giving into the flesh like every belever does. I am glad that you see evidence in me of growth. “He said
She found it so refreshing for her to hear the way he talked. he was quute an encouragement for her. His love for the lord was clearly evident. She was certain of that. She saw her heart that day. It was unavoidable. She enjoyed talking to him. She could freely talk about spiritual things with him. He loved that.
He was never not up to discussing sprituel things. He was sensitive to the things of the lord. That was clear to her. He revelared much of his heart to her that day.
“So do you have any rules for dating?”she asked. “Well i have never written them down. Has to be a belevor. More then that she has to show signs of sprituel growth and growing. I would like her and i to have similar goals. I feel caled to be a pastor in the united sates. If a lady feels called to a foregm fiekd, we would not be a goid fit. Perental involvement is a must. Both sets of perents.”he said.
“Does she have to be i.f.b?”she asked. He blushed a bit. She could tell that she had put him on the spot. “Not necessarily. I gues i assumed that she would be i.v.b. if she is not it is not a deal breaker. I want her to love the lord and i want her to be a partner in the ministry. ” he said.
End of part six.